My mother lives with my husband and me. She has alzheimer's dementia, and is in a wheelchair. She's had a life-long habit of giving her money to my brother. Now I have control of her money, allowing her spending money. When I refuse to give my brother money out of her savings account, she gets angry, mean, and declares she wants to move out to an apartment. She is on the waiting list at the nursing home, but she says she's not going there, she wants to live alone. She clearly cannot live alone. When she leaves here she will go to the nursing home. We are in the process of getting papers filed for guardianship. In the meantime, do I show her the doctor reports stating she in incapable of living alone, or of making decisions? Do I just tell her the doctor said she can't live alone? She knows about the guardianship proceedings, but she doesn't understand them. She thinks a guardian will be another person at her beck & call - she will tell them how she wants her money spent & they will do it. She had extensive testing a year ago, and the neuro-psychologist went over the results with her. However, she doesn't believe she has dementia. The report had a minor error about her circumstances, so she uses that to mean none of the report is correct. I'm looking for some way for her to have peace with the decisions my husband & I make. We are not going to bow to her bullying. So, if she reads the report, which states in black & white she is not capable of making decisions for herself, will she back down & accept her circumstances, or am I in for a continual battle with her for the rest of her life? My brother knows we don't want him to ask her for money. He is too selfish to consider how it affects her & us. So talking to him won't do any good.