How much more time to give her to adjust? My boyfriend's mother moved to independent living continuing care facility 2 months ago. (She is 78 years old.) And about 1-2 times per week, she calls him saying she wants to go back home.
We have been visiting her weekly and she moved with all her furniture. She still says she wants to move back.
She has trouble walking (which is somewhat improved in this facility) and uses only a cane or walker. She was using a wheelchair some at her house. But she was having more issues in the large home she was in. It was not kept clean anymore, rotting food in the refrigerator, she accidentally left the stove on, set fire to food in the microwave, and she was spending all her time just watching tv by herself....unless her son and I visited and took her out.
Also her memory was getting worse. She couldn't remember which pills she took. Luckily it was just vitamins and now one cholesterol pill. She started to miss paying bills and kept asking to buy more and more food, even though she already had 5-10 boxes or cans of what she wanted in the pantry.
On the other hand, she still gets lost in the new facility and it is not very big. She is doing some activities and joining others for dinner. But then she calls and says she wants to go home. She doesn't like the neighbors are "monitoring" her daily activities and she misses her home. She lived at that house for 8 years. It was a 55 plus community.
So we do not know what to do? Just wait and hope she adjusts or move her back? Get her a companion? We are worried that the facility will want to move her to assisted living vs independent living if she keeps complaining and getting lost. We need advice.