My grandmother was placed in a NH recently in Michigan and she hates it. She has called everyone in her phone book to complain and she is horrible to the staff. She is hard of hearing and refuses a hearing aid, which would help her understand what is going on around her. This isn’t my grandma. I know she is frightened but she initially wanted this care. I flew up to MI to help her transition to the NH (3 weeks) and two weeks have passed and now she wants to come to Texas to live with me. However, we found out yesterday that she has metastatic bone disease and declining rapidly. My husband says “No”, my family says “move her from the facility in Michigan to one in Texas”
Currently the doctors are saying she would be better off going to a rehab center in Michigan and then deciding what is best from there, more on the lines of hospice. She is getting to a point where she’s unable walk with her walker. I know a 20+ hour car ride won’t be good but what about a 2 1/2 hour flight. Would she need a letter to fly on a plane?
We also do not know how to move her Medicare/Medicaid from one state to the other, we also do not have POA.
We have no immediate family in Michigan, she has friends and acquaintances. They had helped when she was independent but it wouldn’t be fair to ask any more of them.
I’m not sure what to do!