My 96-year-old mother in law has been living in an assisted living facility for people with dementia. It is located close to all family members, and, up to March 15, we had been able to visit her daily. Overall, we are very pleased with this facility and feel fortunate to have found it.
Our problem has to do with the current pandemic lockdown. We have not been allowed to visit since March 15. We have only been allowed to “visit” through a window as we stand outside. At present, there is no guidance on when this may change. I’ve heard that visitations may not commence until the end of August, with strict social distance guidelines.
My mother in law is enrolled in hospice. We’ve been told that we would be allowed to come see her once she enters “active dying”.
This is breaking our hearts. Although we’ve been assured that she is comfortable, not agitated, we can’t help but feel that she must wonder where her family has gone. We feel as if we’ve abandoned her to live out her final days among strangers.
Should we bring her home? Would this be too much of a change for her? Has anyone else faced this? I welcome any advice that would help us.