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My brother thinks he a big shot POA! Won’t share any info! Does nothing for my mom! Her meds clothes when needed, etc etc visits her 5-10 minutes a day! Promises to take her to lunch! Screams at me (very hurtful) in front of her ( gets me going and I get mad at myself) he leaves and then she s upset for the day. Is the POA publis information?

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If brother does not want to be incharge to provide these things for Mom, he can give the responsibility to someone but he must give the person money, outbof Moms accountp) to buy the things.

Is Mom able to handle her own affairs when it comes to finances, no Dementia? If so, there is no need for a POA. If in her right mind, she can revoke brothers POA and assign someone else.
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Your brother doesn't have to share POA information with you, but you might let him know that if he doesn't at least show you that he IS here POA (this should have been done when she did not have Alzheimer's or at least when she was mentally capable of doing it) that you will call APS and ask them to ascertain his right to serve as POA. And yes, he would be responsible for helping her to get clothing replacements when needed and etc. He would do this as he saw fit.

Again, if you feel he is abusive you are free to call APS and say so.
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What exactly do you mean by Does nothing for mom, meds or clothes, etc when needed?

Do you mean he won't go get them or pay for them from her money?

He is required by law to use her money for her needs.

He is not obligated, nor is it legal to share information with anyone that mom would not have shared with in her right mind. Unless she is totally incapacitated she can direct him to give you and herself the financial information.

If he is not using her money to meet her needs you can contact Adult Protective Services and report financial exploitation of a vulnerable senior.

Withholding medication is neglect and that is criminal. APS would address this issue as well.
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