My 93 year old mother has been imagining hearing music 24/7 from the unit next door. Some nights she sleeps on couch to try and avoid hearing it. She now imagines there is an old couple living in garden next door who watch her and talk about her all the time. This seems to be some kind of hallucinating. Aside from this she is very capable to look after herself with ability to cook, clean and shower. We are really confused as to what is the best option for her. She is not open to going into care but she has called police on 3 occassions with concerns about other hallucinations. I am the POA for her.
If she were 73, or 53, or 33, and having hallucinations, wouldn't the first question be: what is causing the hallucinations? Is there any other reason why you think your mother needs to be in residential care? How long has the problem been going on?
Please intervene on your mom's behalf to either get her in home help or find her a good Memory Care ALF to live in moving forward. I used to care for a gentleman with dementia who's family felt it was best for him to live at home. Until he wandered out in the middle of the night looking for 'his home' and fell in the street; he suffered a subdural hematoma and died the next day in the hospital.
Best of luck