I am a single woman caring for my 95 yr old mom. she has lived with me for 1.5 years. i also work full time and maintain a home. i love her dearly and am doing this willingly and will continue to do so unless it becomes medically impossible for me to care for her. but it has changed my life pretty dramatically. i am also beginning to think that maybe she should be contributing to household expenses. i would expect to do that if i were living with her. my mom is fine with the idea. my brother, who also lives in the area, is in charge of her finances. is it fair for me to approach him with this request. i think she should pay for half of the monthly grocery bill (she has a very healthy appetite) and also half of utilties and power. i would never charge her rent, nor would i expect to be paid for caring for her.