My husband has 8 children, two of which are across the country and not able to be here and one who is developmentally disabled and lives with us; that leaves 6 children that live locally.
My husband is 84 and I am 47.
I have been caregiving alone for a long time now (over 5 years). I have given up precious time with my own family and any semblance of life outside my home and caregiving responsibilities.
I am currently trying to secure honest and reliable home care for a small amount of time throughout the week.
My question is this: Should I write an open letter asking for each of my husband’s children to come sit with their Dad once a month? Or stay over 24 hours so that I can leave and visit family?
Two of my children live about 3 hours from us (they moved closer to be near us). I would really like the freedom to go visit my children and grandchildren without the responsibility of being a caregiver for my visit.
I am so blessed that two of my children and one of their spouses (both in their 20’s) have come down a number of times to visit and help with things around the house. They want to make sure Mom is okay and know the great responsibility that I am carrying.
His kids are from 35-62 and it’s rare we see them; they live locally and Covid isn’t the reason they don’t show up.
I'm just really tired and wanted to know if you thought sending out a letter would be a good idea or even appropriate.
Thank you in advance ♥️