My 87 year old mother has been living in assisted living for 3.6 years. She has vascular dementia and has no short term memory at all. She can play scrabble and Chinese checkers and beat everyone. One sister wants to put her in memory care to get more care. The other sister thinks memory care is for wanderers and inappropriate behavior. I visited the memory care and my mother and 1 other woman are high functioning and the others are very low functioning. She doesn't socialize a lot because she has trouble hearing and she won't wear a hearing aid. Family visits her everyday and she watches a lot of TV to keep her entertained.
We would be paying almost twice the price and a smaller room. One sister thinks it would be good for her, since they encourage them to do activities. The other sister thinks she would be bored with the activities and be sitting in a smaller room watching TV. The care staff in memory care is 9 patients to 1 care staff. She dresses herself and we help her with showers, because we don't want her to fall. The sister that wants her in memory care says we are denying our mom care by not putting her in memory care. The other sister thinks the more independent she is the better and she would go downhill living there. She gets confused, but staff bring her to meals and back where she is. Please help with advice a room just came available in memory care and they are offering it to us for 1,400.00 less per month and had a hard time getting that discount.