I just found out my youngest brother has stage four liver cancer. He has known about the diagnosis since April, but has not said a word to anyone except his employer and church. He is now on FMLA and eventually to disability, if he lives that long. He is 58. My oldest brother and I are struggling with whether or not we should tell our Mother who is 85 and has early dementia. It will kill her. Not only emotionally, but she will worry herself into an early grave if she outlives him. My older brother thinks we should go ahead and tell her. I’m wondering what purpose could it serve at this point? I want to tell her and I don’t. This is not easy.