I live in an apartment building for seniors, and moved my dad across the hall from me when he retired and showed the first signs of dementia. That lasted a year, and due to wandering at night and the need for more social interaction, i moved him to a small retirement home where he has done well for just over a year. He has started exit-seeking and wandering again, and has become more confused and is on Seroquel, and has been assessed for a nursing home. Another issue is that we are Dutch and i am the only one who speaks Dutch with him, and going to a larger nursing home will not be good for him in many ways at this point.
I am thinking that the best thing to do is to move him in with me, and take a leave of absence from work. I live in a big 2-bedroom apartment and he still knows it and loves my cat, and of course feels very comfortable and safe with me. I am a PSW myself, and can arrange homecare and respite care with the Alzheimer's Society in my area, and can work on my BA in psychology that i've been working on part time for a number of years while working.
It would be ideal if i lived in a house with more space, and perhaps i can rent a house and move into it with him, but my question is really, is this realistic, and sane? His need for social interaction is less so that isn't an issue anymore, i'm looking at what is best at his diminished level of functioning. He still goes out with me to a local park, still knows me, has trouble speaking and finding words, can't tell time anymore, needs constant supervision but also naps off and on during the day.
Any thoughts? Anyone else who has a parent in this condition/stage and has them at home? Any advice or input would be most welcome.
Thanks very much,