My parents left me their house and some money outside of a trust account. Should I share with siblings?

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The three other siblings were not their for them. All had pointed out the mistakes my parents made raising us. Not one of them was nice to them. One estranged for 20 years, one on drugs and then one who came 3 times a year. Now I am being accused of neglect and abuse so I will share the money with them. I had planned on it but feel that Mom and Dad knew wanted me to have it and now I cant believe they are stooping this low. At anytime they could have asked my parents anything. It was my parents that set all this up, not I. I did not ask for it and I did not scare them into it. The sibling that did tell denies it. I am saddened by their lack of love for my parents and I am hurt they would think such things about me. I really would like to just throw it all up in the air and tell them they can fight over it. I did not care for them for the money, I loved them and they needed someone. They would have done it for us and have. I am now scared of their allegations that are not true and I am afraid that mysiblings will make sure that they get their cut. I appreciated and loved my parents and want to do what they wanted but then my siblings are threatening me to divide it all. I have been unable to do anything since I received the hurtful allegations. Its like I am paralized. I can not believe they thought so little of my parents and of me.

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If it will set your mind at ease, talk to an attorney and, if necessary, have him/her write a cease-and-desist letter to whoever is making the accusations. Once they find out you're not just going to roll over and do what they want, they may just turn out to be all bark and no bite.
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Your parents knew what they were doing when they left everything to you and none to them. Action speaks louder than words. I'm just glad that your parents saw who was there for them and rewarded that person who helped them all the years. That child could have been like their other children. But did not. You were there for them. Your siblings were not. So your parents showed their appreciation to you by leaving it all to you.

Yes, seek an attorney. When the going gets tough, remind yourself: if your siblings were never there for their own parents, what makes me think that they will be there for their own sibling (you)? No matter what happens, go get a good lawyer and be prepared instead of waiting last minute.
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Thank You All!! I am emotionional by nature. I care for people first and foremost. If someone needs I am there. I have really been thrown for a loop. I would have never expected this. If I were in their shoes. I would be so thankful. Not intimidating and hurtful and especially over money. I am sure my parents wanted to make sure after I gave up my job that my son and I would be ok. My parents were so appreciative to us everyday. These are ties I dont care about cutting now especially. It is so hurtful that this is what humans resort to. Id take my parents back in a heart beat over them or the money and house. How can they be so cruel. I am more alone now then ever and am finding it to better than being in their boat. I send my blessing of peace to all of you and to those you care for. I will forever remember my parents appreciation and hopefully I get through this. I just dont get how such wonderful people with great big hearts could raise such mean nasty people. Originally I would have never thought about not splitting it all up. But maybe I needed to see their ugly sides in order to protect myself. It doesnt sound as if I needed them in the future they would be willing to help my son or myself. I am finding it all such a challenge right now. I will try and be strong and positive. Im thinking I better get an attorney.
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They are attempting to play some sort of guilt card on you. Ignore them. If they want to contest it, let them do it in court. I would give it all to an animal shelter before I would give them a penny.
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If there accusations are false, forget about them. In a million years I would not share anything with someone who threatened me. Additionally giving money to a drug user may be to their own detriment.
If they dare to file to contest the will, you will need an attorney, if it goes your way they will pay your attorney, either way I rather pay an attorney than pay to "fix" a relationship
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I agree with Windy. It's really your choice. But I wouldn't let intimidation or harassment be a guide.

The neglect and abuse allegations are attempts to frighten and manipulate you. Assuming that none of them are true, you can ignore them, or you can challenge them. If you choose the latter route, you have some options.

You can tell them to go ahead and make their accusations and you'll start to find a lawyer who can consider filing a slander or libel suit against them. Bluff them as they're bluffing you, but I do think that this tactic isn't in your nature.

You can just ignore them and gradually cease contact with them until they get over their anger, which may or may not happen at all.

Alternately, you can give them something nominal, but I doubt if it will satisfy them.

If this happened to me, I'd remind them in writing of all the times they failed their parents, of how severely their lack of support hurt your parents emotionally, and that they weren't good children. Turn the situation around so that you're accusing them and putting them on the spot instead of the way it is now.

If you want to get really aggressive, you could ask the drug addict sibling what treatment he's in now to address his addiction. You could ask the estranged sibling if he's getting counseling for the poor way he's treated his parents. You could ask the sibling who came 3x yearly why he wasn't there on a regular basis when your parents needed him.

I think you get the idea; turn the tactics against them. But it does take a lot of courage and right now it sounds like you're kind of afraid of them - no fault in that; 3 against 1 isn't good odds.

There is another option: purchase something for their children, or for them, so that you're essentially sharing some asset of your parents' legacy but aren't giving them the choice. Make it something they could really use so they can't find fault with the gift.

But also ask yourself if a few years from now you'll wish you'd done something differently. And don't do anything until you've thought the whole situation over and feel as though you're acting as your parents wished, and in your best interests.
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I am sure no money could ever replace your parents but it can help with finances that might have suffered while you diligently took care of them, BLESSINGS TO YOU!
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The answer is simple.. NO, I truly feel that if the siblings didnt help then they should NOT reap the benefits. Alot of times siblings only help when they know there is something to gain. Its not fair that YOU had to do all the hard work while they chose to lives their lives allowing you to do it all. That is the reason why I dont care for my husband's sisters. They live their lives stress free while my husband takes on their mother fulltime. They never ask if they can relieve us or help out in any way. I bet you if they knew they had something to gain they would be overly involved acting like they really cared. Its not right. I hope this helps, but I definitely wouldn't feel bad about not giving them anything. Your parents left the reward with who deserved it.
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Only you know what's right here. If it's a situation in which you will be estranged from your family either way, take the money and don't look back. If relationships can be reconciled with sharing and that's important to you, pay up.
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