I moved Mom to live near us because no one was really looking out after her - especially my sib. Now, my Mom is painting this rosy picture of my sib, saying that "he would have taken care of me." She claims that she never asked him to help. (since when do we need a golden invitation to help someone who obviously needs serious care?) She also wallows in self-blame saying that she made him this way (selfish) so it is her fault that he turned out this way. He hasn't been out to see her since she moved here - which she blames on his spouse. You get the picture.
I have put up with his self-centered, manipulative behavior all my life. Now, I am becoming resentful that I and my hub are doing all the work and the sib is just sitting back letting me take care of everything as usual. Today, I told her that if she wanted to go back home and test her theory we would make sure she got home safely.
I have so much stress in my own life right now, that I literally cannot take another "hit." I realized a long time ago that my Mom and sib are two of a kind. They take everything one is willing to give, then discard people when they are no longer of use to them.
Should I really send my Mom "back home" (it felt good to say it) or should I just think to myself that keeping her here is the humane thing to do? We really do not have a mother-daughter relationship....I am just the unpaid help. Your advice will be very helpful to me because I am so tired right now that I cannot think straight