My wife's 92year old grandmother is in a nursing home near our house. Granny's immediate family are far away (4 hrs, 3 hrs, and Asia) Naturally, they can't visit that often. My wife and our family visit her about 4-5 days a week to make sure that she gets the extra care that she needs; like somebody to talk to, getting sunshine, washing clothes, etc....
I'm afraid of "out of site, out of mind" to the family. They haven't forgotten about her, I'm just afraid that it's uncomfortable for them to see her in this condition, so they don't see her. So, we bear the "burden" of being her guardians, practically alone. Her sibling's family hasn't visited in over 2 yrs; although they ask about her all the time.
Sometimes when we visit, I dial them on the cell phone so they can talk to Granny for themselves. Most of the time, Granny doesn't know who she's talking to. I've thought about bringing my video recorder and sending them a video of her. Am I being too pushy? Or do you think they'd want to see the video?