I am 31 years old and currently living in the UK. I have lived abroad before for a few years however at the moment I been back here for 1 month. I have met somebody who lives in the USA and am considering moving there to start a life and create roots with him in his home state, however I have been wrestling with feelings of obligation and guilt as far as my family are concerned.
At the moment my parents are both 61 years old and are healthy, active and both still in the workforce. However I am aware of the reality of ageing and, should I choose to move to the USA and start a family, it would make caring for them in the future a lot more difficult than if I were to stay here. In addition to this I have a brother with severe autism who cannot take care of himself. When speaking to my parents they assure me they have everything under control but I still feel the responsibility to be there for him not only now, but in the event that they become unable to care for him/whatever care plan they have for him manifests and requires my support.
I have no other siblings, and we have no extended family. My parents are not close to our neighbours and they are all much older than them so, once this timeline occurs, these neighbours will probably not be around anymore. Am I making the correct decision if I move so far away? Or should I be more selfless and put down roots here in order to be available should my parents or brother ever require my help?