My Mother requires 24 hour care and cannot be left alone . I also have my father in law who is also in the very early stages of dementia, whom I like but not ready for . My son and husband need more attention than I can give because Mom comes first and father in law is always there. I cannot ask Mom's other children for help they have done everything in their power to make my job harder than it should be. Besides Mom did not trust them when she was well so I sure do not. I am also not sure she will qualify for medicaid and the cost can add up quickly. She qualifies except for the House she sold 4 years ago, Should I keep trying or should I keep her at home for another year. I do not have thousands to gamble with, that she should get excepted and don't mind taken care of her just need breaks.The guilt of placing her in there is extreme. Am I doing the right thing ? Now about my father in law maybe some of you have seen this behavior before He follows my Husband everywhere, tries to dress like him, even rides to work with him sitting in a truck for hours(with AC) because he is not allowed on job sites, when they are home he continues to look for and ask where my husband is. My Mother never did any of this It is the strangest thing and creepy too, cause he is constantly looking out the windows and doors for my husband. I think I am jealous of my Father in Law? How weird is that?