Mom is 85 and has advanced dementia -- though she is healthy and doing well. My husband and I take care of everything for her. Manage all of her bills and accounts, meds, doctor visits, grocery shopping, manage home care companions, have her overnight at our house often. Have handled everything for 6+ years.
I have a DPOA, medical directive, my name is on her bank accounts, am executor on her trust, and appointed fiduciary for VA benefit. Obtained letters from both of her doctors (PC and neurologist) attesting to advanced dementia.
Previously I worried my sister would get mom really confused and worked up and try to change her trust so I wanted to establish Mom is not competent to make changes. Think that is much less likely now but is in the back of my mind. Lovely sister hasn't seen Mom in over a year and contributes nothing but criticism.
My thought was that you basically become her acting executor once she is deemed incompetent. Is that correct? Is it the same as guardian?
Because Mom is not competent to handle any of her affairs, should I take the next step to be appointed legal guardian? Or is that really complicated and I should just leave it as is?