This is a follow up to a previous post back in 2023. I am getting worse when I see my husband of 55 years in SNF. He was diagnosed with mix dementia but has always been a mentally abusive alcoholic.
I am on an antidepressant but I am still having issues seeing him. I know morally it is wrong, but I just want to leave the situation and move out of the state. My grown children do mostly everything for their father and I just visit.
I am 80 years old, in good health and would like to enjoy what time I have on this earth.
Stay or leave?
I would take that invitation. A chance in a lifetime. You deserve this. Your husband is in a NH how much do your kids really need to do. I am 75 and at thiscage my DH and I have lost a number of classmates and friends. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Go to Hawaii and update us on how your doing.
If not now then when? Go enjoy yourself
I think you should leave especially if you have given 55 years of your life to this man, an abusive alcoholic (I have lots of experience with a situation like this and I'm 82).
It's time to take care of you, to live and enjoy your life. Please leave.
But, you're the only one that can answer the question about what's right for you in the short and long term. You might be surprised how much support and guidance you can received from prayer.