I want to start my life over and I am not getting anywhere where I am living now, should I move my mother long distance with me?

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I so want my life to start over, and Im not getting anywhere here in Maryland. No family support, no financial support and resources are out there but unaffordable. Im getting further and further in debt! You see I am caring for my 81 year old mother who has dementia and has lived with me for the past 2 months. Im able to go to work because there is no one to watch her, adult day care is so expensive and the hours from when she would be picked up until when she would be dropped off leaves me little time to even go to work. ( I have to catch public transportation). I am planning on relocating to Tacoma, WA where I have a great friend but not sure if it is wise to take my mother. Frankly dont know if I could handle it. I want to start over but afraid to leave her here if my 2 sisters are not going to visit. She also has a brother who lives here and he hasnt been to see her either. In fact the only time anyone has seen her is when I took her to stay a while with ounger sister because I thought I was having a nervous breakdown. My mom gets $2,186 a month and that is not enough for assisted living. Do I just take her and hope God will continue to bless me, or find a place here and hope her other 2 children and brother step up.
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Emerald they did not vist much when she lived alone and they lived closer to her. I had to bring her to live with me and they dont even call or attemp to come see her. Oh they would come visit her if I left her, but it MAY be once a month if that, both has always had an excuse. I would have to choose a small assisited living home and hope there are other subsidies that would kick in, Im thinking more of her well being than mine, and I dont want to feel guilty about leaving her here and her mental health goes down because she once had at least me now no one. Im going to discuss it long and hard with both sisiters, but I want to make it clear to them when I move out of state,(from Maryland to Washington state), either she goes too, or they have to promise to watch after her as I have done the last 2 1/2 years. I dont want mother feelings hurt and her dementia to get worse because they have something else to do or dont have time. Can you understand where Im coming from? I dont want her to feel like I abandoned her
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What makes you afraid your 2 sisters won't visit? Do you think they don't visit now because you are always there, and therefore they don't have to? If you left, where would she go to live (since you said there is not enough monthly income for assisted care)?
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