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Should I move mom or not?

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Hi, my mom lives in a nursing home down the street from us in AZ and loves it there. She likes the staff and the actvities. My inlaws live nearby too. I see her once or twice a week. She's almost all there but as TBI and dementia. In a couple years my husband and I (we're in our 30s,) would like to move out of state to the NW or CO. We want to raise a family there. I'm wondering if I should move her or would it be okay if she stayed in AZ? That would be another state. Ideas or other experience or suggestions? Thank you!!

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Tinalynn I'm not pretending I know a lot about brain injury, but if your mother's brain function suffered and is now described as dementia then although it isn't progressive in the same way as Alzheimers and vascular types are, true, I believe you should be prepared for her to decline. Have you discussed her health prospects with her neurologist?
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My mom's dementia is caused by her brain injury so it's not progressive like the other type. As far as family. No it's just me. My brother and sister lives in other states and hardly see her.
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I also vote to keep Mom in her current nursing home. How great that your Mom loves living where she does, so many times we read where the parent hates their continuing care facility. Your Mom must be young if you are only in your 30's.

As MACinCT had mentioned, there could be issues with changing insurance and doctors especially if Mom is using Medicaid [different from Medicare] to help pay for her care. She needs to keep seeing familiar faces, which give her a sense of security. She can watch the news and recognize the locations that the Reporters are referring. Same with the local newspaper if she still reads the papers.  Plus all the friends she has made.  Moving her would change everything, it would be like moving a teenager !!
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Her condition may be quite different in a couple of years. I had to move my LO, because she needed a higher level of care, but, I think that if it's not really necessary, I'd lean towards letting her be, especially if she is getting good care, satisfied and some family and friends nearby.
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That sort of move means that you will need to change her insurance and doctors. If she is on Medicaid and or ward of the state there may be complications there as well.
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You should avoid moving your mother. Does she have any other family nearby or is it just you?

It's nice to read of someone being so happy and well-cared for in a facility :)
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Each move with dementia usually causes further decline. If mom is still happy where she is leave her there, it will be better for her in the long run. Plan on visiting often at the very least, but that is less important if there are other friends and family there that will advocate for her. Dementia is a progressive illness and will not get any better. At the time you may feel like you want to move her so I would definitely ask what her doctor and staff at the nursing home think.
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