My 94 year old mother lives in her long time home with daily help and a college student who lives in the home in exchange for checking on her morning and evening. She also has a dog. Until about a year ago, she was fairly social. She has been screened for dementia, and it has not been diagnosed, Her vision is excellent since cataract surgery, and her hearing aids seem to work when she uses them. She is rather frail looking, but she walks, uses the bathroom, etc. She also had an emergency alert device.
She is less and less prone to engage with anyone, although everyone who comes into the household does try to spark conversation. She won't answer the phone unless she knows that my daughter is calling. When I try to talk to her, she pretty much tries to shut down the conversation with stock phrases, however if I really insist that she pay attention and have an exchange, she is quite well oriented and gives appropriate responses. I am really confused as to whether I should let her follow her inclinations and just zone out!