I just met- and interviewed- a woman recommended to help me out with my parents. She had taken care of her dad who passed away years ago. Even though all of her work background is clerical, she is well-versed on the care job. I fully expected to not only hire her, but to also hire her fulltime because she wants full-time and I could use someone full- time.
I've been through 4 agencies in the past year and each of them sent women who just sit and look at their phone while I run around doing chores. This woman worked for an agency briefly and knew about that being a common complaint. We discussed it several times so she knows I won't tolerate that. I found out later she doesn't even have a cell phone, much less a smart phone.
As sure as I was that I would hire her full-time, I'm having second thoughts and wondering if I should hire her even part-time.
Issue #1 was readily apparent. She has a LOT of "personal insulation", and we've had really hot weather, so she sweats a lot. When I was showing her around, her sweat smell, which was not fresh sweat but hours-old sweat, was strong and pungent. Not wanting to be superficial, I thought I'll just keep my distance from her at all times. Several hours after she left and Mom/Dad had gone to bed, I laid down on the sofa to mull over the hours I should give her. I noticed the sofa had a sweat stench. When I turned over and put my nose near the seating part where she had sat, it was worse, and not just sweat.
I told myself I'd just hire her for the earlier part of the day when she's fresher and it hasn't been as long since her shower.
Now I realize I overlooked something else. Our interview should have lasted an hour. It lasted just under 3 hours. I had a difficult time keeping her on track and on topic because she had advice for everything. It didn't feel like her bossing me around or telling me how I'm doing everything wrong. It felt more like her wanting to show me how much she knows.
But, I'm concerned that she's not going to be able to stop giving unsolicited advice and won't be able to buckle down and work when needed. And I'm not going to be able to get things done either because of it. I reigned her back in once when she went off topic for far too long about how I need to give Dad Omega 7 and 9. I thought she'd never stop talking about it so I bluntly told her we need to get through the interview because I was short on time. She apologized and we went on, but later I had to make more attempts to get back on topic.
I'm also worried about being able to reach her if necessary because I called her 5 times in the morning to tell her I wanted to do an interview instead of the "trial" we'd planned. She wasn't home but also has no voice mail. And with no cell phone either, how will I reach her when she's out with Dad at his daily noon mass while I'm home with Mom? I could buy a cheap phone for her but what if I decide not to keep her on?
ALL that said, she's generally nice and knowledgeable. And I really, really need help. Should I try her out or would I just be getting more frustration?