Should I go on my planned weekend trip?

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My Mom has not been eating or drinking much these days. She says words that don't make sense (over and over again). I have this weekend respite trip planned and my Mom's caregiver will be staying with her. I need this weekend, but I would feel bad if she did pass away and I wasn't there. I will be about 2 hours away, so I would be able to get home if needed.
My Mom has been down and always gets better, but I am not sure this time.

My trip is scheduled about 2 weeks from now.

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I still think you should go!
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Update:
So Mom is eating just one pouch of baby food and drinking a few sips a day. I have started giving her morphine as needed. I still plan on going on my 2 day trip, but the end is near. Her caregiver doesn't really want to stay with her because she is afraid that she might pass, but she is still signed up.

I feel a little guilty for still going. Friday seems so far away!
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I think you should go. As you say, you will only be 2 hours away, which isn't so far in an emergency.
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Onlychild, I too am the only one, and have cancelled numerous vacations and weekends in the past worried I was going to miss something. She has had quite a few ups and downs. One thing that has helped me is I keep a daily log ( yes, I visit the NH daily for a few hours) and in the margin of my notes I give the day a positive, neutral, or negative. This way I can have more than just my memory, or a gut feeling, to recall if her condition is pretty stable or fluctuating. If there’s a lot of positives and just a few negatives, I figure I’m pretty good to go. So maybe if you can do something similar, you’d feel better about going. And you can always cancel if things look like they are deteriorating steadily.
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Things might be or might not be much different in two weeks. You need this break and have planned it and planned for it. Go on your trip.
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