I am 80 & a widow for 8 mos—took care of husband since 2012 the same year I had back pain & had to use a cane—I also took care of my dog with kidney disease till he died—under all this stress had high BP, bowel removed due to infection, breast CA, many hospitalizations—now I feel like the house (one story) is closing in on me there is so much ‘stuff’ that I can’t organize due to severe back & leg pain when standing—my husband took care of majority of bills & now it’s all on me & sometimes I feel overwhelmed—my grandkids got me another small dog (8 yo) & he is a joy; he makes me get up & dressed to take him for a walk each day. I feel living in a smaller place (that would accept a dog) would be better for me & my kids. They have their own families & houses & bills & they come & fix things around the house, mow, shovel snow. I feel my back is getting worse by the day & maybe I would be less stressed & so would they if I went into elderly housing. What do you all think? Pros & cons? I am also dealing with grief of my husbands death & since Covid there hasn’t been any face to face group meetings only online. I don’t do well talking online or just reading about grief by myself—I need to see the people who have gone thru it in person —I found this site when I was caring for husband & it helped me a lot with all the answers given to my questions so I hope y’all can help me with this decision—thanks in advance!