He has lung disease and is on oxygen. The oxygen started about a month ago. His prognosis is unclear but my brother said the diagnosis is Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis + Emphysema. The IPF was diagnosed about 8 years ago but there was no progression until very recently. My mother uses emotional abuse as a tool to try to manipulate me into doing things for her. She has threatened suicide. She lies and says that I went to Florida for the winter even though she asked me to stay because my Father was sick. My Father was fine at the time of my departure and she did not ask me to stay. The stress of her lifelong emotional abuse of me (and my Father's complicit choice to not call her out on it) has resulted in my own health issues. I did leave for Florida for the primary reason of avoiding my parents during the holidays. At this time they both have colds and in a phone conversation today (the first real conversation since October - she wasn't speaking to me) she said they are both "failing" and "don't have much time". When I asked if they wanted me to come back to help them the only response was "that's your choice" (my father parroted that response in the background). When I suggested they hire cleaning help (not a problem financially) she said they didn't want to be there while they are cleaning and they can't leave since they "have nowhere to go" - (unsaid - because I left them alone).
