My mom has Parkinsons and dementia. I've been her sole caregiver for 9 years 24/7. She's been confined to a wheelchair for 2 years and is incontinent.
I have 2 sister's that come about once a week to let me know what I'm doing wrong,not to help.
My mom recently went to the hospital with an e coli infection, she was there 2 weeks.
I took the opportunity to go away for 2 nights because I hadn't had a break in 9 years and was suffering extreme caregiver burnout.
One of my sister's agreed I should go, but the one that lives around the corner from me got really mad and told me I only put mom in the hospital so that I could have a vacation!
I went to the hospital when I got back and was told my sister had told them mom was going home and they were ready to discharge her even though she wasn't eating and had lost a ton of weight and couldn't even sit up in the wheelchair.
I consulted the doctor who thought it was best that she have rehabilitation before she comes home.
I agreed because it was hard enough taking care of her when she was able to help some,but without anyone to help I knew I couldn't do it.
The problem is, my sister who lives near me is calling me every day telling me off for letting mom get rehabilitation.
She wants her home where she can just forget about her except to bring her a blizzard once a week.
She somehow feels like she needs to check on her everyday in the nursing home and when she was home she knew mom was being taken care of no matter what it was doing to me and only came once a week if that.
She says I just want a break and that's why I'm leaving her in there and I should be ashamed of myself.
I do feel guilty because part of me is enjoying the break.
Should I feel guilty?
Mom is going to come home as soon as she finishes the rehabilitation,probably 2-3 weeks.