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I have taken care of my mom for 10 years. She is 24/7 dependent on me, which sucks as I have no life as she constantly calls and texts and bothers me and the bad part is I have PTSD and she was deemed my trigger based on my therapist. I recently put in an application for section 8 housing and when I get it I want to leave, yet I'm having doubts.

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You should set her up somewhere first, maybe ask the board in another thread
the best way to go about doing this. Then I'd move out guilt free and start to
live and enjoy your life. Wishing you the very best of luck!
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Let me be clear....I would never suggest moving out with out finding proper care to replace you!
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I am not trying to put a guilt trip on you and I am all for taking care of yourself but..if Mom has ALZ/Dementia who is going to care for her?
Does she already have caregivers in place? Does she need 24/7 care at this point? Do you have POAs for the time she will need LTC?

I am not saying don't move out. Just need to get your ducks in a row. Would Mom qualify for Medicaid homecare? Are you set up with her utilities and other bills as a contact if she doesn't pay her bills? You won't be held responsible for payment its just to make you aware. POAs are great tools when used correctly. If Mom can still make decisions, I would get her to assign u or someone.

There has been alot of posts lately about narcissist parents and siblings. Guess it is hard to set boundries and NO is not a word in their vocabulary.
I think the best thing you could do was get a place of your own. Your safe place. I have my cell set that only people on my contact list ring thru. All others go straight to VM. That way you answer when u feel in the mood. You can block her from texting too. If she has caregivers, inform them you only get calls from them in case of emergencies and if Mom needs necessities.

Your therapist can help you get your life back. You need to learn to "let go". A time will come that Mom will need more care than you or anyone can give. That will be the time for LTC. You then will be able to sit back knowing that she is fed, clean and cared for.
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Move when you can! You have to take care of yourself. You did take care of her for 10 years. That's long enough if you can no longer deal with that situation.
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