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That is what she can handle. With dementia, their world gets smaller and smaller. I think we should accommodate that and not keep trying to make them fit into our world. Just my opinion.
Dementia patients need structure in their surroundings, and what would be a treat to anyone else is upsetting and stressful to them. Bring dinner to her place and eat with her there instead. I brought my mom Mexican food from the local restaurant, and that made her day. She never once went to that restaurant, but just the treat of her favorite food was enough.
She thought they’d been out of town and “the hotel” wouldn’t let her back inside. Or thought they’d moved away. Once she got back, she couldn’t find her bathroom, wasn’t sure where she was. It stressed her out.
Eventually my MIL realized taking her mother out was something of a selfish act. It was making MIL feel better about having to put her mother in MC. But it wasn’t helping her mother at all.
She is at the stage now that she just wants to stay in her safe environment.
Personally, I would just visit your mother at the home, her home.
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