My 92 year old mother has dementia with sundowning and full-blown delirium in the evenings. My niece is really, really pressuring me to bring my mom to their house on Thanksgiving night (not a good time of the day for her). Her nagging is really stressing me out. Mind you, these are nieces and nephews who she rarely sees. I think she should stay at the nursing home where she has only been for 2 weeks. I think it would be a huge disruption and exhausting for her to be in a loud house with 20 people she doesn't remember all trying to talk to her and ask her questions. I think it would really set her back. Plus, I am the one who will have to tend to her while she's there (i.e., toileting, etc.) as she can't walk and is a dead weight of 110 pounds for me to lift. I am exhausted and do not want to go through this since I don't think either of us will benefit from this visit. I am not close with these relatives and they usually ignore us when we are there, except to ask a lot of questions of us both. I feel they are being very selfish to pressure me and I don't know what to say without causing a rift. Please help. I am new to this forum. My mom and I are very close and this whole thing is devastating to me. I am griefstricken and full of anxiety, and I am going this all alone as my sister just died a few months back and my brother lives out of state. Thanks.