I sent the paperwork to the lawyer and now the wait begins. I almost hope the judge does not allow me to be the conservator of her finances. I applied for it as well as to be conservator of her care, because it will save her money longer and be much cheaper that an attorney or accountant. But it is all so stressful. Relatives have borrowed money from her to buy cars. At the time, she had enough sense to put the cars in her name. However, recently they have forged her signature on one title to switch it to their name and had her sign over another. I don't know what the judge will do. I guess, I'll have to sue all my relatives. This is tens of thousands of dollars we are talking about.
I did move her recently, so she is closer to me. The AFL could no longer provide enough care for her, and she doesn't have enough money to pay a round the clock caregiver. She's in memory care now.
I haven't told the other relatives where she is, yet. I want her to have some adjustment time before they start their rants. I don't plan to 'hide' her. I just need a week or two. There was enough drama when they found out that she had to have a sitter. (I had to hire one, until I could get the move arranged.) One main relative called the AFL, hospice, and the sitter service ranting (read screaming) that she be kept informed. I actually did laugh when the ED of the AFL told me that he said to her "You don't visit her, so I didn't think you were interested."
They did visit her long enough to get her signature for cash and cars, though.
My husband puts up with this, but I know he would rather I not be conservator, too. Mom's house and affects still need to be sold. I can't just put it up for sale, though, because the relatives are actually dangerous. I can see them showing up during the estate sale and causing chaos.
Most of the rest of the family cut them off years ago. Why was I stupid enough to think they would never turn on me like they had already turned on everyone else?