Dad died 10 years ago and Mum started serious drinking to forget. She can drink a bottle whiskey in a night and will have a drink at any hour of the day or night. She knows she drinks too much and often comments (usually after a fall) that she must stop, but she is an alcoholic and can't stop. She has very painful ostio-arthritis and says she uses alcohol to deaden the pain and to help her sleep.
She is an adult with all her marbles in place and I am struggling with caring for her and not controlling her life.