Mom wanted brother to get everything. Should I give him everything?

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He is middle aged and has personality disorder. Had a few jobs in his 20's but was always fired. He is on SSI and food stamps. Mom set up special need trust which I am in charge of. He can't inherit anything so mom put my name on two of the bank accounts that have a beneficiary. Should I put the money in the trust for them? Or would it be ok to keep the money for me. Can't use the money in the trust for food or housing anyway. Not allowed.

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You do NOT have to deal with anything before Tuesday or whenever you can get an appointment with the lawyer.

Please, Barbara, relax a bit. This stuff isn't going away. It will be there to deal with when you have some professional help.
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The lawyer was away. Will be back maybe Tuesday. This is getting overwelming. I also might have to foreclosure on the lady that bought moms commercial property. Was my dads businness building and small house that was rented out as apartments. And have to deal with unreasonable and unrealistic brother.
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Hadnuff, please talk to her lawyer. You are not "stuck" figuring this out alone.
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Yes, mom died three weeks ago. She was afraid of him but also protective of him. She was also afraid of him becomming homeless after she died. He won't live with another person. And he expects to be able to stay in the house. So I'm stuck tryig ti figure thus out.
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I assume your mother has now passed away?
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I advise to get him a higher functioning roomate to motivate his household cleaning needs. You will have to plan for any rental income-perhaps directly into the special needs trust? If that were possible. The special needs trust was too complicated for me to administer.
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Saying that your brother is not a nice person does not change what your mother wanted for him - nor does it justify you deciding to vary from what you know she wanted and agreed to do.
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Brother is living in moms house under lifetime deed or something like that. I will take money to execute the will and run the trust. But expect it to be very little money. Brother is selfish and was mentally abusive to mom. Even physically put his hands on her a few times. He only started phically helping mom when he had to because she could no longer get clothes on and off herself or cut her piece of chicken at dinner. Befire that he made a mess cooking in kitchen and left pans and dishes for mom to clean up. Even though she was in here late eighties and frail. Messed up livingroom and never helped mom straighten up, etc. He is not a nice, caring person. Part of it is his personality disorder, but still.
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I can't imagine your mom expected you to manage your brother's care in perpetuity without any compensation. Generally an administrator is entitled to charge a fee for their services, so you could invest the money and draw from it annually, or monthly if you prefer, whatever amount is deemed a reasonable fee. I would make sure you have a lawyer to help set this all up.
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Where is brother living now? How is that working out?
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