I am in a situation many of you have been in after reading many of the articles on this website. My mother has been in assisted living for about 3 years but now has been assessed by the facility to move into their health care side (nursing home) into a smaller room, with little personal belongings. She is refusing to go, saying she feels claustrophobic in the small room and keeps saying she wants to go back home. She cannot live by herself and we sold her home to pay for the assisted living quarters. She has mobility issues, needs help getting out of bed, changing her pull ups, bathing and is basically dependent on someone helping her with everything she does, except eating. It would be very hard on me physically to care for her in my home, but if she is refusing to go into the health care side, and I force her, she will only decline further I am afraid, and the guilt is killing me. I have 4 brothers and sisters and they are all out of state. I live alone and work from home and need to travel on business once in awhile so would have to depend on an agency or center of aging to have people in my home to care for her when I am gone. I love my mother and it is so sad to see her unhappy. I am being told by my siblings not to move her in with me, but I just can't force her into a situation that may impede her health further. I am very unsure of what to do, as when I am reading the discussion articles on living at home, it seems everyone is really unhappy they made that decision. My mother is 84 and has very bad arthritis and incontinence. Anyone that can give me advice is welcomed into this discussion.