Should I allow my grandmother to die?

I agree with orangeblossom5 sweetie hang tough u have done so much for her. Hugs for you and your family. God Bless.

Thank you everyone for your comments and encouragement. She had the surgery and is now in a sub-acute unit at a nursing home. I went to visit her yesterday and she is perfectly content there. I just spoke with her on the phone and she sounded so happy. So I guess in the end it turned out alright. I must say she was a little upset with me yesterday because she thinks I am out of her life and can't tell her what to do or make decisions for her, but I corrected her and told her she is not rid of me. she actually told me to go home! She was upset because I told the CNA she needed a shower, found out she refused one the night before. I told the her and the CNA no more refusal, if she does, I need to be called and if need be I'll come up and give her a shower! Keep in mind prior to me getting involved with her care she hadn't showered or bathed in over 3 years! But at least she is happy where she is at.

That's really good. I'm happy for you.