The doctors and family members feel that the Alzheimer's patient can no longer stay in his house because he makes poor choices when problem solving. He does not want anyone coming into his house to stay with him and refuses to go into assisted living because he feels it is one step closer to death. No matter how many times we have tried to explain that assisted living will make life easier for him because he doesn't have to worry about the upkeep of his house, laundry, and meals each day, the person doesn't want to leave his house.
We would like him to decide which assisted living facility he would like to go but don't know if we should check-out the places without him or take him to look at them. A year ago, I took him to just see what assisted living facilities are like reassuring him that he didn't need to go to one at that time. He broke down, got sick, and cried. A year later, it's time for him to move into a facility, and I am not sure if he should accompany me. He has mild to moderate Alzheimer's.
Don't expect a good response. Expect an honest one. Which will be grief. There are times when grief is a fact that cannot be avoided for you all.