My mother-in-law has a room at our house and a room at her other child's house. We thought it would be the perfect sharing of care but...The transition from our house to the other house is tough for her. She gets very quiet and seems unhappy to have to leave us and go to the other house, which is a lot messier than ours. There is also regular conflict there, between the three generations.
We thought it would be the perfect situation, where we could each participate in her care, and also get regular breaks. However, the stress of the transition is now leading me to wonder if we should offer to have her here full time. The other child could come and take her out to dinner once a week, etc., or take her for a weekend once a month, or something like that, but her main residence would be with us. However, I realize this will also mean her main residence is with us, and all that goes with that! She is very spry and needs limited assistance at this point, but that may change at any time.
I have an infant. We all get along well, and grandma loves the baby....it has in some ways given her a new lease on life.
Any advice to share? Thank you so much!