As a single woman still working and overseeing my mothers care I often find myself overwhelmed. I have no family but I do have one girlfriend. She has listened to me talk and get off my chest the stresses of care giving and I have listened to her talk about the stress of not working and mentoring a young 20 yr old kid with issues. Recently my friend asked me to take in her mentored kid because he was kicked out of the group home while she went out of town for a week. I did not take him in due to fact he has anger issues or other issues she wont share with me, and I do not really know him because he does not speak to me. Everything is a race issue with her and him because he is black and we are white. Well, long story short she has dumped me due to the fact "I did not grow balls and help her out" as I was advised I should be doing. She said she has listened to me talk about my mother and she feels I need to support her more than I am. She advised me all the times I treated her to concerts she only went as a favor to me and from now on she is going to concentrate on what makes her happy instead of trying to please others and I need to find someone else to go see Tim McGraw with me because she does not really like country music. I have sent her emails and texts asking questions on how she is doing only to get a reply that since I an not showing support she does not want to share. She has had me on egg shells for weeks.
After 3 weeks she has asked if I want to come over and talk. I said yes. How do I save this relationship and should I? Maybe I should just keep the stress of my mother to myself in order to have a friend during these tough times. Maybe my issues really are too much for a friendship.