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I have hearing issues from childhood but since my speech was not effected doctors believe the problem started around age 5 when I had several ear infections and ruptured ear drums. I was taught lip reading in elementary school. Today when an audiologist tunes the volume perfectly (as part of most recent hearing test) I can correctly identify 89% of the words spoken. Because I can catch some words from lip reading and my mind is quick enough to interpret the "missing" words, I generally do okay, although if someone faces away from me while speaking I will probably ask them to repeat. I wear my hearing aids every single day from waking to midday (at least) and from after school to bedtime. I find the aids become uncomfortable in my ears after several hours. When I am alone I often turn the volume on the TV louder (about 20%) and when watching TV with the kids without the aids I turn on the closed captioning. I have found a simple hack can be helpful: a baby monitor placed close to the TV with the receiving monitor placed on a bedside table helps a lot when I don't want to wear the aids or have the TV loud. I have an electronic grand piano that I can wear headphones when playing where the "noise" is inconsiderate of others. Other times you may be blasted by the sounds from my 120+ year old vertical grand piano or my 60+ year old "modern" console or maybe even my antique pump organ... my mother used to love to listen to my playing, even practices.
( I forget the name of nerve. Ha ha ha!).
He NEVER wears them. Says people mumble, TV is not loud enough, etc.
Problem I'm facing now is that to talk to him, even in a very simple conversation, I have to FIND him, make sure he is looking at me, that there is no other sound going on (TV, ALexa, computer) and I say my bit--then I have him repeat it back to me so I know he 'gets it'. Even then, sometimes I'm not sure he DOES get it.
The other day we went car shopping (oh, please, shoot me now!) and he was talking to the salesman and completely talking OVER him to the point the poor guy couldn't get a word in edgewise. It was awful. So he was angry b/c he felt the salesman was being hedgy and he wasn't--he was being quite polite and DH was the one whose voice was escalating in tone.
He just simply refuses to wear the aids. He told me to stop bugging him about it. So I did.
He misses all the fun--all the funny things the kids and grandkids say. He can't hear the speakers in church and he cannot hear highway noise--(think emergency vehicles right behind you!).....
And he gets mad very easily b/c he simply doesn't hear. His hearing loss has gotten MUCH worse than it was and he is angry a lot--b/c he simply misses so much and then says "what's going on?"
If it were only the TV, I could deal. It's every second he's awake.
There is literally NOTHING I can do to encaourage him to learn to wear these. No amount of kindness or anger works. And I know I am not alone in this.
Funny (not funny) his mother is as deaf as he is, and when he goes to see her he is yelling to have her hear. He complains to me and I say "Yep, I know EXACTLY how frustrating that is".
I have given up trying to get him to try. If he doesn't hear me or others speaking, then that's his problem, but it hurts my feelings so deeply that he doesn't care enough about me an what I have to say to even TRY to use the h/a's.
Has he ever looked into the cochlear inplant? Perhaps he could try that. Maybe send him texts with what you need him to know and leave it at that. I’m sorry he is so difficult.
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Also confer with a deaf society group perhaps in your area or national group may have more help , suggestions. Gauledet ( sp?) University in Washington DC is a campus that uses exclusively sign language and is for deaf students
( open to anyone to attend but everything is done in sign language).
You may want to contact them for possible referrals, suggestions. They are an amazing place and, most likely would have current information on systems, support etc for deaf people ( or those using hearing devices).
also, there are call centers that can translate words into type so he could read messages on a phone (an old fashioned type phone, not a smartphone)
...I don't remember the names of any of them right off the top of my head.
I had TV Ears at one point but found them to be both uncomfortable and unreliable.
But then I found Sennheiser.
Sennheiser makes amazing headsets for television. They have an older discontinued model that’s still available with some retailers and can often be found for under $50. It’s the Sennheiser SET 840. I’ve been using one of these for a decade now. And just bought a second set for a second television.
How long has Dad had his hearing aides? Has he been back for adjustments? When my husband has to switch to Digital from analog it was very hard. It was only a few years back we found out why. Analog sounds like the person who is talking, digital sound is more mechanical. My husbands hearing is caused by damage to the ear not hearing loss as we age. So this mechanical sound was not good for him. They found a digital one close to analog.
Digital hearing aid's volume is set by computer. So there is the baseline the person hears normally and then up or down but in a certain range. So, if that baseline needs to be adjusted so does the up and down. The analogs you could turn as high and low as needed. Not so with digital. They are set to go only so high or so low.
Then its the mold, does it fit right? They have had to shave some of my husbands off for the mold to fit comfortably. If he doesn't like the mold, there are little tubes that go in the ear.
Cleaning, little beads of wax can get caught in tubing. This will effect hearing. Wax in the ear too can cause problems. Seniors tend to want things immediate. Doesn't happen with these digital aids. Your need to go back to have things tweaked. My husband is deaf in one ear and maybe 20 or 30% in the other and that's with an aid in. If completely deaf, an aid will not help. TV he needs closed captioning. There are TV ears and headsets that can be used if he hears at all. Telephone, my husbands lights up when ringing. Dad may like the Captel that shows on a screen what the person at the other end is saying. The phone is free but u pay for the service.
Call your County Disabilities dept and see what is available for the deaf. But I suggest you take Dad back to his Audiologist to find out why his aids are not working for him.
I myself have little hearing in the right ear, but "enough". Or as I say to the doctor," I hear much more than I want to ".
Long and short of it, as a nurse, was I never saw a patient with a hearing aid he or she didn't have a problem with. They virtually used to whistle and sing A Capella. Like vacuum cleaners, it is so hard to find hearing aids one can love. I sure wish you luck. And if it happens I sure hope you post them here!