My mom finally moved back to her senior apartment. While that is great and she is getting settled in, there have to be some boundaries set. I quit working and pretty much dropped everything for the time she was in the hospital and rehab due to the constant chaos and repeated hospital visits. As things calmed down I am trying to dig out from under piles of mail and things not done for months. I also have to start working again. The problem is being self employed nobody treats it like I actually work and it is being abused by my siblings to dump everything on me, mom abuses it too. They have convinced my mom I do nothing and am pretty much on call 24-7. I am setting what days and times I can go help with things like routine appointments or extra things she needs help with beyond what home health care does. I know what boundaries I want to set. How do I get them to stick??