As I returned my mother to her nursing home last evening, I stopped by the nursing home to sign her back in. I had to borrow a pen from the nurse - she had not even looked up as we approached and I had to ask her and interrupt her paperwork. After I got my mother settled in, I went back to the nursing station for her wing to let them know she needed to take her meds, as we we a little later getting back than expected and she had missed them earlier. I stood there more than 10 minutes ( I watched the clock). As I watched the clock, and her - I noticed she was flying through filling out the papers - the exact same papers every time - which was curious to me. Finally another nurse walked up to the station and I said - "I know I look like I have nothing better to do but stand here waiting on her to see what I need..." The nurse didn't even look up.
I asked a friend who has worked in a nursing home what he thought the papers were - he said it sounds like the vitals forms. My mother has been in this place for 6 weeks - the first 5 on the rehab side, the past on the long term - I visit her at least every other day and my niece and sister make the other days - not one of us has seen hers (or her Alzheimer's) room mates vitals taken. Mother said they were taken the day she was moved to this hall.
The meds she was supposed to receive at 9 pm last night were finally given at 12:45 a.m. (this includes her sleeping pill and blood thinners) which threw the morning meds off this morning, again, including pain meds and blood thinners. She is also on a fentynal patch that is to be changed every three days and it has not been changed.
They have forgotten to bring her lunch twice.
Her roommate, having Alzheimer, needs help with everything. They wake her at 5:30 a.m., get her dressed and in her chair for the day. She falls back asleep. They bring breakfast at 8:30, set it at the tray in front of her in her chair,, she sleeps. They pick up her tray - she never eats any breakfast. Which worries both me and my mother.
We live in Florida, and right now OUR a/c is out on out top floor - it is 87 degrees upstairs. HER a/c is not working either. She has called maintenance about it twice today. If they do not fix it today (it is 5 pm now on a Saturday) she called me 10 minutes ago and they still had not been in - it won't be fixed till at least tomorrow - but probably until Monday.
The financial department has been helping me get her approved for long term medicaid and they have faxed every paper needed until the very last one medicaid has needed. First thing about this I do not like - it is a financial release form and they insisted I leave the dates blank. and now they have told me they have faxed it three times and two of these times she has lost it. Last Thursday she had to have a new one signed and medicaid still does not have it.
The nursing home also told me that the money that my mother gave us for rent/help with the bills she gave us the last month she lived with us HAD to be put back. We had no choice and when we did it could only be spent on my mother and we had to keep all receipts. Even though this is the same amount that she has been giving us for the past 10 yrs she has been living with us. I called medicaid 4 different times on 3 diff. days and they all said the same thing - they had never heard of this. I told the finance person about this. Her story changed some and that I was talking to the wrong people at medicaid. She also said that once she was approved for the medicaid, mother could do whatever she wanted with her money. Give it to anyone..throw it out a window. Whatever she wanted, it didn't matter. Really? Because the other day you were ADAMANT that she could not do ANYTHING or GIVE ANYONE ANY money except spend it on things for yourself.
Anyone ever heard of these things?
I know I should definitely mention the Vitals chart (I am going to make sure that is what the blue sheet is in the morning when I go in...I am for certain going to look at my mothers chart to see her vitals list)..
Oh. There is also a lady who is paralyzed and can not communicate - they put her in a wheelchair and leave her in the hallway. I have never even seen anyone talk to her. EVER.
What should I do? I will for sure look for another place, as I am afraid once I say something, there may be retaliation against my mother, but I need to wait until all of her medicaid stuff is final - that is one thing I can not go through again.