In the evenings, my mom usually creates a scene claiming Dad is a stranger in their apartment, ir that she needs to be rescued from him, etc. They are in a senior apartment where you can add "assisted minutes". There are only "aides" there at night. They call family if there is a problem. Second option is call 911. I am the only one to call since my only sibling has lung cancer. I only live 5 minutes away but my days are consumed with meeting the needs of my parents. They both have Altzheimer's with Mom more progressed than Dad. Their greatest fears are being separated. But now my pooe dad is spending his evenings kicked out of his apartment in the halls or lobbies at this facility confused and waiting to be let in to go to bed! I know she can't help what she is doing but what do I do about it? It feels like she is abusing my dad. Meds at night? Move to memory care place? I feel like he is not ready for that. Separate them and give them each their appropriate care? She gets UTIs that seem impossible to keep cleared up. We keep trying. Sometimes I have weeks where I am there 4x/day to give her antibiotics. She also falls alot. Sorry this sounds so scattered but it is a good representation of how my head spins as I am trying to problem solve.