Mom is 66, had a stroke 20 months ago, lost about half her vision, lost her husband a month before that, and now lives with us. A month or so ago, a family acquaintance issued an invitation to a weekly church fellowship meeting which Mom said she’d like to go to. But the acquaintance called today to make sure she wanted to go and Mom told her she didn’t want to go today, maybe next week. This is not the first time she’s cancelled on this acquaintance.
Mom’s reasons were that I would have to drop her off and then the acquaintance would have to bring her back. And she was hungry (just starting to eat breakfast when the lady called.) And tired from our visit with family yesterday. And she had to get mentally prepared to go. I realize the people at the meeting are all strangers except for the acquaintance. (Most of Mom’s friends live about 2 hours away from us.)
Mom wasn’t very social before all this happened. All of her friends were people she and Dad knew and were all couple friends. But she did like being around people and now she practically avoids social activities. She is on an anti-depressant. But I don’t know if I should just let her be or insist she get a higher dose, take her to a therapist, or something. She says she is happy just being in her room, watching tv. We do see family about once a week. But she gets so little social interaction.
Plus, I was kind of looking forward to a couple hours in my house alone. Now, to get a break, I have to leave. Which I can do anytime, but I don’t get any alone time at home. I mean, I can be in my room alone or on the porch. But she’s still always here in the house. I don’t know why it was important to me for her to leave, but it was.