I'm 40, married, the mother of a 3 year old. I work full time, as does my husband. We own a house and have 2 dogs. I'm also an only child. My father is deceased and my mother is 85 years old, morbidly obese, and suffering from what appears to be Stage 3 or 4 COPD. My mother lives 2 hours away from me.
I'm not aware of my mother's condition because of her offering up any information - quite the opposite, actually. She will not allow me or her sister (my aunt) to attend any medical appointments or speak to her physicians. So we've pieced together her medical information by writing down the names of the inhalers/medications we find around her house when she's not looking and then researching those drugs online. Recently, she's started using a nebulizer 4x/day, and oxygen therapy at night (I got this info from my aunt).
She's always been a bit of an emotional challenge. At the very least she's suffered from Major Depression (untreated) her whole life - though I strongly suspect that if she had ever met with a therapist, she would've been diagnosed with a personality disorder. Her most recent visit coincided with one of her "mood swings." She spent 3 days at our house crying, making inappropriate comments to my 3 year old about how grandma is always alone and cries herself to sleep every night. The day she left for home, her breathing was really bad. She blew up at my husband & I as we tried to help her pack, telling us that she'll never agree to go in a nursing home. She'll die alone in her house if we won't take care of her ourselves.
My 3 year old was witness to this emotional scene. Not okay.
I have no idea what's really wrong with her - what the prognosis is of her medical ailments - if this increased level of depression is related - if it has the potential of getting more severe - nothing. So I don't know what to do. My biggest fear is that a serious medical crisis is going to come out of nowhere. I don't know what to do.