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Sorry to hear about your mother...you must be exhausted and my heart goes out to you. I had the same situation with my mom and ended up putting her in a nursing home where they could watch her better. At night, they attach an alarm to her shirt that goes off when she tries to get up. She also has two roommates who can call the nurse if she gets up...which she does all the time. She had a couple of falls--no surprise--but she was ok. Then she fell and broke her hip. She's now getting physical therapy there. Last week she fell again and hit her head on the nightstand...got a nasty bump but was thankfully ok. I'm telling you all this because I believe this is part of the dementia "disease" and you will destroy your life if you try to handle this yourself.

My suggestion it to put her in a nursing home. I know it doesn't feel right to do that but ask yourself this question: would you want your children to take care of you if you ever got like your mom knowing what it would do to their lives? I don't think any loving parent would want to do that to their kids. Just my opinion. I'm praying for you and your mother.
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If it makes you feel any better, I too am going through the same thing with my mother. Her doctor has prescribed many meds that don't work at all. One is Ambien, and the other Trazadone. I found that when she takes Zanax it calms her down where she is not so anxious. She seems to rest a little better then. Sometimes a hot bath or shower with a warm glass of milk before bed works too, but not always. I am a walking zombie.. I work full time and have a caretaker come take care of her during the day. She would probably do much better at a nursing home but I am not ready for that just yet. Finding a good caretaker isn't that easy either. We will find the strength to figure it out. I am confused about this whole situation and the guilt that Im not handling things right is eating me up. I too could use some help. I don't even have time to seek help myself. 3 kids, full time job, and no sleep, I don't know how much longer I can remain standing. But i just can help thinking about mom doing all she did for us as a single parent who lost her husband at 32 years old with 3 children ages 3,7, and 11. If she made it through all, I have to try to do the same for her. Good luck to you. Dont worry we will be ok..
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