My bedridden father with mestatic cancer needs someone to properly change his condom catheter, bathe him, clean his dentures and put them back in his mouth, feed him, shift him so he doesn't stay in one position all day, massage his limbs, change his depends diaper, clean him when he defecates, oil/lotion/moisturize his skin, keep his nails clean, talk to him, shave his face, do his laundry.
Hospice will not do this
Most caretaking agencies will not do the majority of this.
We need help.
As a Veteran, we have aide and attendance, my dad is not eligible for medicaid (they say his military pay is too much). We have to go to the food pantry to help feed ourselves because everything is so costly.