Diabetic Mom (65) suffered a tbi in last December lays on couch most days. I finally got her where she is debt free and paid off her credit cards but now she won't let me see her bank statements anymore. She refuses help and won't leave my house unless I take her out somewhere. I don't know where to start I am so frustrated. She suffered a concussion at her job last December and as soon as she was released from the hospital she retired (on my suggestion, she had been written up many times at work) and began recovery for her injury. Things have gone down hill since then. She refused home health, PT, OT and won't write anything down, has mutiple online accounts she is unaware of how to access, scheduled a vacation with her savings and gets angry at me when I get after her about taking care of herself. (see a psych, go volunteer, call your friends, walk your dog, cook for yourself, etc.) The workers comp neurologist said she was fine. She is NOT the same. She has no drive and no desire to do anything for herself unless it is shopping or going out with me when I need alone time. I am ashamed at how angry i get with her but I am paralyzed with confusion. some days she is perfectly capable of normal living activities and people think i am overreacting and then she will stay in bed all weekend watching movies and wont eat unless I prepare something. I have a toddler and work full-time. My husband advised me to leave my job so I wouldn't keep getting sick trying to balance everything. My last day is this week and I don't even know where to begin. I also need to dispute her workers comp claim, sell all her hoarding crap, and follow up on all my missed dr. appts. UGH...where to begin. God bless you all dealing with this...I know i am dealing with the tip of the iceberg. Thanks for letting me vent.