I know I've made a few posts just in the last few hours, but I'm new to this site and I so need the experience of others in the same boat. It is so hard to try and calm my mom down when the first thing she does when she sees me is cry. There are other times also that I knock at her door and she doesn't hear me and so I open it to find her either sitting or standing there, crying and talking to herself. I realize she is miserable, I would be too, but she is in that hard middle ground between knowing she is failing and is scared about it, and being out of it but not realizing how out of it she is. She is planning to move...she is just going to call the moving people and find her own "little house". She has no phone, no money and no place to move to, but if it gives her a sense of purpose then I let her believe she is doing exactly that. but in the meantime I deal with the horrible guilt I feel for not being able to help her find something to help her pass the time. TV, books, etc., are not options anymore due to her dementia. She is not interested in scrapbooks, photo albums etc. It is next to impossible to take her out anywhere as the background noises are amplified with her hearing aids, she is constantly cold, her food "always gets cold" so she complains about that, she has no filter when it comes to talking about other people and iwth her hearing loss means she voices her opinions very loudly. It is taking a huge toll on my sanity and I don't know how to get my head into a place where I'm not sacrificing my mental and physical health.