My senile husband keeps slipping in and out of consciousness. Suggestions?

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I do hope there is someone out there right now. I realise this may be the beginning of the end and I don't want to send him to hospital as there is nothing that can be done for him. He is comfortable and not in any pain, I give liquids whenever he surfaces. I has a urinal for when he wants to wee but what do I do if he needs to poo? I can't physically help him to the toilet any more I am not strong enough. Where can I get help tonight ? We only have one bedroom but I do have his Lazyboy in the lounge. Suggestions

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Evident, you should not be alone right now. Call family or friends to come over. If you have a priest or minister, call him too. Wish we could be with you.
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We had hospice for dad at the MC, and we were able to be with him at the end. They also help with all the "after death" things that will be a nightmare if he passes at home with only you there, and no help. Like calling the coroner or funeral home. Please call them soon! And my thoughts are with you both.
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Hospice will let you stay by his side even if services are not provided in your home - I hope you have support and that hubby stays comfortable and peaceful through everything. My mom was in residential hospice and I slept on the daybed or the couch there every night except one night when I was sick and she was doing OK... I do know it will mean a lot to both of you if you can be there when he passes on, if that is what's to be.
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Oh, thanks guys, you are terrific. I know it would be best for me but after 63 years I feel I owe him this - to let him die in my arms. It is just that I have no strength left am a cardiac patient and have fibro myalgia (don't know if that is spelled right). I will phone a hospice and see what they say. Bless you guys for being there for me.
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If you think he is close to death you may want to go ahead and call the ambulance to take him to the hospital. Hospice may not be able to help you quickly enough. The only reasons I am thinking about the hospital are for you. They can do the physical things and a doctor can sign the certificate when your husband passes on to the next phase of his life. Having the death certificate quickly makes things so much easier. They can take longer to get if someone dies at home.

I am sorry you are having to go through this. Hospice would be the ideal solution. If they can't get there soon enough, I would consider the hospital. It isn't ideal, but it would be easier for you. Big hugs and hoping that he passes peacefully and that you are okay.
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Oh Evident, yes, what Irish said. Google Hospice and the name of your town or county. There may be an emergency number for today. You don't say what his impairments are. You could call 911 and once at the hospital, ask for him to be seen by the palliative care team. He could possibly be discharged to a hospice facility, because it sounds as though he's going to need 24/7 care in the short term.
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Your husband should be on hospice. You shouldn't be facing this alone. There are numerous hospice agencies available. Please call one ASAP and explain you situation. They're available 24/7. Good luck to you.
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