I am main caregiver even though mom is in a care facility. She has mild-moderate dementia and does not drive. I live 20 miles from her and use her vehicle (with her permission) for her care. I have also used it for personal use (with her permission) especially since I live in country and get several things done while in town to see her and take her out for appts., store, church, just to get out! She knows it is her vehicle and appreciates me driving. My siblings live 90 miles away. Sister sees her once a month for couple hours and brother hardly ever but calls her. Sister also pays bills. They want me to sell it so they can put the money towards her care (which would be around $7500) and I use my own vehicle. Or I buy it. We have done all the maintenance and gas out of our own pocket. Only insurance comes out of moms account paid by my sister who manages her money. I am so conflicted because it helps me as well as my mom so much!!! I cannot seem to reiterate to them how much it means to mom when I spend time with her and take her for her needs and wants--just trying to help mom maintain as much independence as she can now and having the use of her own vehicle is one way. I feel guilty more times than not even when I drive in to help her and run to the store for my own needs even though I pay for all the gas and oil changes. I just need someone to help me put all in perspective. Thanks so much!!!