Mom has Alzheimer's and I have to sell family home, Family keeps asking Mom why. Any advice?

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How do you nicely tell well-meaning relatives that it's none of their business that I have family home up for sale, Mom is unable to ever live there again and I have a renter, only the headache of being landlord,Caregiver to mom and doing all her medical,financial and dealing with relatives telling me its your family home you need to save it. WHY should I save a house when my mom needs a new special bed,and other medical needs that the house will provide for. Please give me ideas and let me know how to help mom when relatives call her and insist that she talks to her daughter, who is selling her home. Thank You for reading this.

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I would consider contacting those relatives directly and telling them the situation and to ask them to quit mentioning it to your mom and to discuss it with you if they have problems. And include that you had the conversation with your dad before he passed and he was in full agreement. With their rudeness and aggressiveness, I'm not sure if it will help or stop them.
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OK as I read it I interpret that your Mom is living with you, you are the caretaker. Do you have POA? Sounds like there is no chance she will ever be able to live alone again. Who would keep it up, make repairs, pay the property taxes, etc? Sell the house and invest the money in an account she can draw on and draw interest. As far as interfering relatives, tell them to but out or take over. If they are interested they can buy it. You are doing what is best for your mother's stability and comfort, they do not matter. Traditions are great if feasible, reality is current.
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You need to give them a good enough reason to sell the home.If they all don't like your reason.tell them to kickout the money to help Mom so she can keep the home.Offer to sell it to a family member to keep it in the family.Sounds like their out for money.
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Hi, My mom just says sometimes call my daughter or she will call me and ask why are you getting rid of your dads home and mine, If I tell her it is to get her a new bed she just goes OH I need a bed ok, or she will start crying and saying daddy will never forgive you if you sell his home, I have asked my dad before he developed alzheimers also, he passed away in 2013 of Alzheimers and Parkinson complication about selling home if needed to provide for mom. He was all for it. Relatives just keep calling her, or visiting one of them took her to the house to meet the renters, It took me almost 7 hours to get her calm, she was so agigated. This relative was of all things her sister, These same relatives were never around when I was doing 24 hr caregiving and needed help mom was just developing her mental illness then Oh I am also a only child with a wonderful supportive husband and 30 yr daughter
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Oh my! Don't these people realize that she has dementia? Why on earth are they being so rude and insensitive to dump this on her ... or to confront you? Unbelievable.

How does Mom react to these calls?
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